Did I tell you I’m doing Dry July?
“Have you ever gone a month totally alcohol free?” I asked my one of my friends, in her 60s this recently.
“Never” she said.
“I’m doing Dry July,” I told her. “Wanna join me?”
I won’t lie to you. I love a beautiful glass of wine. I love the colour, the texture, the taste. I don’t agree with other sobriety authors who write how horrible alcohol tastes. No wonder we find it hard to quit.
The booze barons know how to package alcohol so it ticks all the boxes: product, price, packaging, promotion and place. Commonly known as the 5 P’s of marketing, alcohol manufacturers and their distributors have it down pat—and profits are soaring.
But so is consumer consciousness. As with tobacco, so increasingly with booze. Alcohol tells lies masquerading as truth.
• Happier hours? Not if you don’t know when to stop.
• Increased confidence? Not if you can only find it in a glass.
• Sexual appeal? Not if you count the concealed calories.
• Skyrocketing success? Not if you count lost hours to hangovers, stress and reduced clarity.
Numerous studies show problem drinking is on the rise. Which is worrying, not only due to alcohol’s toxic impact on your immune system, but also the side-effect of increased anger for many.
Other’s have always sought happiness in a bottle, mistakenly turning to booze to fuel a happy-high. But there are happier and healthier options to feel more joy—minus hangover hell and drinkers remorse. You can trick your brain and stimulate the reward networks by losing the booze and pepping up your peptides—your body’s natural feel-good opiates.
As I share in The Sobriety Experiment and Mind Your Drink: The Joy of Sobriety, alcohol just adds more stress. Smart people are turning to savvy strategies. Like Mike, a successful businessman in his 60s who wrote to me, ” I woke up, after a summer of drinking, made a decision that day, have no idea why, never looked back. Still don’t know why but nor do I regret it”
Intuitively, Mike knew he could feel better. Much better. And he does. “I am on my fifth month without a drink! Biggest gap in 34 years!”
What you feel has a powerful effect on your mind and your behaviour, attracting, or repealing from you what you desire—including health and vitality. Call it the law of attraction, the law of manifestation, or whatever you like, but know that the mind-body connection is backed by strong empirical science.
Dr. Candace Pert, formerly the chief of brain biochemistry at the National Institutes of Health in the US, revolutionized her field by discovering that emotions create biochemical compounds called peptides that serve as messengers in the brain; her team’s work won the prestigious Albert Lasker Award, which is often a precursor to the Nobel Prize.
Pert’s breakthrough discovery changed the way scientists understood the mind-body connection.
Her discovery of the opiate receptor, the mechanism by which a class of chemicals (peptides) alters the mind and body, and subsequent research, led her to an understanding of the way emotions function as a regulatory system in the body.
Because of her revolutionary work on emotions and the mind-body connection, Dr. Pert appeared in the film, What the Bleep Do We Know, and her work helped shift the paradigm from “emotions as neuroscience” to “emotions as biology, ” and “emotions as physics.”
So, what does all this mean for you and your quest for sobriety?
Many people use alcohol to numb their emotions and mask their pain. But as Dr. Pert’s research highlights repression creates imbalance and leads to ill-health.
“My research has shown me that when emotions are expressed—which is to say that the biochemicals that are the substrate of emotion are flowing freely, all systems are united and made whole. When emotions are repressed, denied, not allowed to whatever they may be, our network pathways get blocked, stopping the flow of the vital feel-good, unifying chemicals that run both our biology and behavior,” says Pert.
As you’ve already discovered alcohol is a depressant and aggravates anxiety and other mental imbalances. Too often, when people start to experience low mood or suffer mental illness they head to the doctor or schedule an appointment with a therapist.
However many psychologists and western doctors treat the mind as “disembodied, a phenomenon with little or no connection to the physical body,” says Pert. “Conversely, physicians treat the body with no regard for the mind or the emotions. But the body and mind are not separate, and we cannot treat one without the other.”
I endorse this professionally and personally and have seen many people return to good health when they stop ingesting toxins, particularly alcohol.
“I’ve always kind of known that the energy you emanate from within attracts the situations and people that you need,” Pert explains.
“We’re not just little hunks of meat. We’re vibrating like a tuning fork—we send out a vibration to other people. We broadcast and receive. Thus the emotions orchestrate the interactions among all our organs and systems to control that.”
Emotions are meant to be felt temporarily, flowing through and out of you so they don’t become stuck in your cells and tissues. This is why having an outlet to express your emotions healthily is so vital—especially when painful emotions keep replaying through your conscious and subconscious mind.
Memories are emotions tangled with thoughts, and these can become implanted not just in your brain but in your body too. There are different theories about how exactly this works, but Dr. Pert explains that memories can be found stored biochemically in the synapses where neurons (brain cells) connect to each other.
“The sensitivity of the receptors are part of memory and pattern storage,” she once said. “The peptide network extends beyond the hippocampus, to organs, tissue, skin, muscle and endocrine glands. They all have peptides receptors on them and can access and store emotional information. This means the emotional memory is stored in many places in the body, not just the brain. The autonomic nervous system is pivotal to this entire understanding.”
The autonomic nervous system is where you experience the flood of physical reactions to your emotions—it’s the system that switches hormones on and off, changes your breathing and heart-rate patterns, and more in response to fear and stress.
As Colette Baron-Reid, a survivor of rape and a recovering alcohol and drug addict, shared in her book, Uncharted: The Journey Through Uncertainty to Infinite Possibility, “Even if you haven’t studied the science of how energy affects and forms patterns in the physical world, you have experienced it, as I have. Once, I ran into an old friend with whom I had severed ties years before. My relationship with this person had been constantly in chaos, unhealthy, and not serving either of us, so we had grown apart.
“I had tremendous anxiety whenever I was around this friend, triggered by the friend’s history of anger and my history around abuse. Over and over, I found myself back experiencing the energy of my 19-year-old self and the rape, when I couldn’t defend myself and capitulated out of fear.
“After the friendship ended, I rarely thought about this person, and I assumed I had simply moved on, but when I saw this person approaching on the sidewalk, I felt a sense of panic and quickly crossed the street. I asked myself, “When am I?” (not where but when) and realized I wasn’t present in the now; I was experiencing the energy of the past.
“Deep breathing and tuning into the Observer reconnected me to my soul and small self. I imagined myself in the hand of God, surrounded by love and light, and I sent my former friend the intention of compassion. The nightmare ended as the energy in my body shifted. I was no longer disempowered by the stored energy that had infused the memory.”
Pep up your peptides—find a healthy outlet for your emotions. Make finding a way to release all those stuck energies your mission.
Journaling and writing morning pages are some of my favourite ways to express any stinky feelings that bog me down in a rut. Meditation is another—it’s an amazingly alchemical tool that helps me stress less, and eliminate so much unnecessary negativity from my life.
“Drinking worked in the beginning: I felt wonderful, warm, and fuzzy… almost pretty…What I didn’t know was that I was in a prison of my own making,” says former addict Colette Baron-Reid—now a sober intuitive counsellor and author.
If you’re worried about your drinking or have had a heavy drinking problem for a while chances are you’re well aware of the significant health implications, and how alcohol ruins many areas of your life.
But many people aren’t. They binge drink like it’s a sport, scull drinks like there’s no tomorrow. Ignoring the wake of devastation they leave in their path, they resist making a change for the better. Sometimes they leave it until it’s too late to undo their mistakes.
If you feel that it’s time to rethink the role and purpose of alcohol in your life. Test your current knowledge by answering the questions below:
• Do you know what alcohol really is?
• How is alcohol made? What process creates stronger spirits?
• Is alcohol a known cause for more than 60 different health conditions? Do you know what these are?
• Do you really understand the damage you’re doing to your body when you’re hungover?
• Why can a 5 per cent beer make you twice as drunk as a 4 per cent version?
• What about an 8 per cent craft beer? Is wine safer to drink than vodka?
• What is the definition of binge drinking? Can it kill you? Why can’t you stop?
• Which country says it’s fine to drink three pints a night?
• What is a unit of alcohol? What is a standard drink? Why does it matter?
• How many units of alcohol are deemed safe daily? Weekly? Why?
• Is it true that women should drink less than men?
• What are the health effects and risk factors if you drink more than the recommended guidelines?
• Does alcohol depress the central nervous system at high doses?
• Did you know that alcohol can offer a short-term high, followed by deep lows, depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts?
• Did you know that many alcoholic drinks include compounds called congeners that add to the taste, smell or colour of the drink? Why do they increase the likelihood and intensity of suffering a hangover, and other undesirable side effects?
• Do you really know what the labelling on the bottles you buy really means?
• Do you know that lobbyists influence governments so they can maximise the sale of alcohol to minors, and society’s most vulnerable people?
• Do you even care? Are you happy remaining blissfully blind?
You’ll find the answer to these questions in the pages that follow.
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