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How to love being a black sheep

Do you know how to fight for your dreams? Do you find yourself saying, “If only life was easy”? The truth is, life is seldom easy, even if you are a princess! Too often, we feel like the black sheep of our families, culture, and planet. But we can learn to love being a black sheep and flow with grace to realise our dreams

I was excited today to read of the dazzling price achieved for Princess Diana’s beloved ‘Black Sheep Jersy.’ Diana’s ‘iconic’ sheep jumper sold for a whopping $1.86m at Sotheby’s! As the article shares, The appeal of the black sheep jumper was never simply because it was worn by the Princess but also the way it symbolised in clothing form so much about her story.

“While the famous item is often associated with her youth, it is also speculated to be reflective of her complex relationship with the royal family,. The world felt a particular kinship and connection to ‘the people’s princess’ as she often pushed the boundaries of societal norms at the time. Her beloved looks have been forever memorialised and continue to inspire a new generation of people today.”

Princess Diana has always been a muse and inspiration for me. Her courage, her passion, her vulnerability, the way she led from her heart, and her determination to shine like a star in the wake of family attacks are some of the many things I admire. I drew on Princess Diana’s fortitude as I wrote my self-empowerment book, Lulu is a Black Sheep. In fact, as I listened to the free audible excerpt today, I was reminded of how much I endured and how far I had come from my own family abuse.

I am currently reading a book written by the vocal coach who helped Diana reclaim her voice. “DIANA THE VOICE OF CHANGE: Revelations About Diana’s Life Principles” by Stewart Pearce is a magical read. I think you might find it interesting.

Start reading it for free: https://a.co/7Eg0eg6

Through her work with Stewart Pearce Princess Diana found her passion and purpose—to be the queen of love.

Princess Diana

Rethinking our passions

Like so many people, the global shutdown caused many of us to rethink our passions. I read of a Paralympian who, because the Olympic Games planned for 2020 were postponed, turned his mind away from what he could no longer do – train for the Olympics – and made room for new passions. In his case, inspired by Leonardo da Vinci, he began sketching human anatomy. I guess this passion also fed his athletic mind which loved to know how to work to optimum performance.

What Can Passion Do? Free excerpt from my course Follow Your Passion and Purpose to Prosperity—listen now on Youtube

How to fight for your dreams

During Covid, I turned into an old love that I had as a child and teenager—sketching cartoons and writing fiction. When I was a teenager I often asked to illustrate the school magazine. My parents wouldn’t let me study drawing and art at school, even though the art teacher recognised my innate talent and begged them to let her teach me. So art remained a hobby and then died as I ‘grew up,’ and ‘got a real job.’

Perhaps, you heard that growing up too. But look now, many of the ‘real jobs’ have disappeared. Our local travel agency closed. Doctors, teachers and pilots were laid off. Many industries are forever changed. But from chaos opportunity can flourish.

Recently I thought how much fun it would be to have someone illustrate the books in my Transformational Super Kids series.

I was dismayed at how expensive it would be to have my books professionally illustrated. One of my coaching clients love the drawing I did for fun for my book, Lulu is a Black Sheep.

“I love your drawing. There is rawness and realness to it,” she told me.

Lulu is a Black Sheep book by Cassandra Gaisford

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Fight for your dreams even if that means fighting alone

Lulu is a Black Sheep book by Cassandra Gaisford

I wrote another book in my Transformational Super Kids series during COVID-19, Billy is a Balloon. The theme is about how to fight for your dreams when everything appears to be conspiring against you. It really is about keeping your thoughts high. Recently, I found a handwritten copy of the draft. I love to write by hand. It is so freeing, and I feel like a source beyond me channels my words.

I wrote Billy is a Balloon as I have so many of my books, for my daughter Hannah Joy. She messaged me on Anzac Day, during COVID-19, week six, feeling a little blue and saying she felt like it was Groundhog Day and it was hard to be motivated.

Motivated to finish the book she was writing.

Motivated to practice self-care.

Motivated to appreciate the gift sometimes hidden while the world is on pause.

One of the greatest gifts we can give our children and ourselves is the gift of self-reliance, fortitude, perseverance and courage.

Yes, we may be sociable people but we also have great power and resourcefulness to do things alone.

We can’t wait for approval. We must give it to ourselves.

We can’t wait for perfect timing. We must find it to ourselves.

We can’t wait for inspiration. We must inspire ourselves.

We must, and we can, and we will, be a bright, beautiful, brilliant balloon.

We must fill our head, our heart, our lungs, our life, with all the things that feed our heart, nurture our minds, and nourish our souls. And we mustn’t forget to breathe!

I created this book for my younger self. I made this book for you and your children. I wrote this book with love, and happiness, and glee.

Read this book at bedtime, at times of stress or pain or joy! I hope you find this book a great treasure trove of comfort. This book is always here for you—no matter what!

Stay in your bubble, dear readers. Soar High. Love who you are and who you can be.

Much love



I hope you enjoy this video where you’ll see me working intuitively and joyfully on my newest giant colour-infused oil abstract expressionist artwork, “You Are A Princess.”

I was channelling Princess Diana on the eve when she would have been queen … still the queen of hearts, then, now and forever after. As Pink sings, “Wild hearts can’t be broken.”

You’ll see me working from nearly the beginning, repurposing an earlier colour-field painting and repainting it in vigorous, rhythmic, lyrical sweeps of colour. I thought about how Princess Diana loved to dance as I created the piece. I hope you enjoy this insight into my creative process. “You Are a Princess” is part of my new series, Beautiful Trauma, inspired by Pink.

In an interview for The Guardian, Pink explained, “I named the album Beautiful Trauma because life is fucking traumatic. There are natural disasters at every turn”. She continued, “but there’s beautiful people [sic] in the world that are having a blast and being good to each other and helping others. Because I can be dark, I try to constantly remind myself that there’s more good than bad.” As always, I hope it is helpful to you

Coronavirus—threat or opportunity?

How to confidently leave a job you hate, and start living a life you love: The Step by Step Guide to Changing Careers
Billy is a balloon Audio


I have created my stories to appeal to both adults and children. If you, or your child, could do with an inspirational boost, Please accept my free gift—Billy is a Balloon. I hope you enjoy this short, empowering story.

Click here for the free audiobook – written and narrated by me>> https://dl.bookfunnel.com/znooq2ocme

So many people feel anxious, fearful, and stressed right now, but there is something we can do. We can feed our soul. Which is what I did when I wrote my new release, the 5th in the Transformational Super Kids Series, Jojo Lost Her Confidence.  Read more here and learn what inspired this story and how it may help you or someone you love.

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How to love being a black sheep

The Joyful Artist

I am an artist, storyteller, intuitive guide, mentor and Reiki master. All my creations are infused with positive energy , inspiration, and light. I believe in magic and the power of beauty, joy, love, purpose, and creativity to transform your life. My greatest joy is helping your realize your dreams. That makes my soul sing!

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